Yesterday I realised just how true the statement above is. I watched a video made by a friend of Chris’s for his job as a game reviewer, and in the middle of an unrelated clip, the editor had seen fit to throw in a random pair of breasts. It was unnecessary… just as the hundreds of scantily clad women gracing the covers of men’s magazines, and random videos are not really necessary.
Where are the days when women were admired for their elegance, sophistication, style and femininity? Where are the days where instead of ogling half-naked women, men pursued women by charming them with their chivalry and gentility?
Why does our society deem it appropriate to objectify women, and make them s3x symbols? When are we going to take a stand on this?
I am not speaking only as a Christian, but as a women, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a wife, a mother… I don’t want my father, brother, friends, husband or son having this view of women. There should be a respect for women, for their femininity, for their grace… but more specifically women should respect themselves enough to stand up and be feminine and graceful… without dressing prudish, but maintaining an air of mystery.
Men are designed to pursue us, and whats the point when we hand it to them on a platter – our mysteries: physical and emotional. We have no qualms about sharing our bodies with their eyes, whether in low, revealing outfits or tight-painted-on ones. Neither do we seem to see the value of keeping our secrets and our inmost thoughts to ourselves, to share one day with our husbands. By the time a women gets married nowadays, half the male population has either slept with her, or seen almost all of her body, or knows all her thoughts. This is thanks to social networks in part, but mostly the fact that we see nothing as sacred anymore. Our bodies are nothing more than instruments to get as much attention from men as possible.
Some people blame the men, saying they should control their eyes and their thoughts, and yes, they should. But they were designed to be attracted to us, to enjoy the female form… in marriage, and then only their wives. The responsibility does not rest solely on them. We have the responsibility to stand up and fight for sacred femininity, and the grace and elegance that women inherently have. That which really attracts men, that which was given to us for our husbands enjoyment, so we can be helpers and companions to them. Not so that all the world can see our bodies, or our minds, but so that we portray that mystery that we were
I am deeply saddened when I see young women walking around malls dressed in skimpy outfits, leaving nothing to the imagination; it saddens me when I see the men around stare at them, and for all the wrong reasons. Have we lost all our self respect? Have we totally lost the desire to be wanted for our charm and grace, as opposed to the shape of our breasts? Why should godly men have to “bounce” their eyes whenever they walk in public, because of all the skin thats shown… for fear that they stumble, or be seen as perverts. Why do men get called perverts when its exactly what we’re asking for when we walk around in our skin tight, low, revealing outfits?
I think its time for women to take a hard look at ourselves and make a change, and decide to be more Audrey Hepburn, with elegance, grace and class, and less like a Victoria’s Secrets model, handing all mystery to the world on a tarnished platter.